For example, statements such as:’ You are to be at work tomorrow at 8:00 am’ / ‘Take the rubbish out immediately.’
Irrespective of their function, role, age or sex, people react negatively to such communications, especially when they are delivered in a tone of voice that suggests there will be no argument. They feel that they have been disrespected and treated like an object, because they have been given no opportunity to express their own opinion. The person giving the order expects the task to be carried out; they are not interested in what the other side has to say. Giving orders is a natural way of communicating in the army, and in the uniformed services generally, but in relations between men and women it is typically badly construed, especially where personal relationships are concerned.